Contextuele Bibliografie

Het zijn tenslotte nog steeds mijn ouders. Over exoneratie en vergeving

Exoneratie is een centraal thema in contextuele therapie. Tot op de dag van vandaag is er echter discussie over de vraag of exoneratie en vergeving synoniem zijn, of dat ze daadwerkelijk van elkaar verschillen. In een lezing tijden het International Conference Contextual Therapy 2023 in Long Beach, Califoria presenteerde dr. Jaap van der Meiden de bevindingen uit een recent internationaal onderzoek naar vergeving van ouders, en vergeleek deze met de theorie van exoneratie.

Artikel | 01-01-2023

Couple relational ethics: From theory to lived practice

Distressed couples often become polarized and caught up in power struggles, with competing claims and perspectives. When escalated, partners may become reactive and unkind. The competitive individualistic worldview of the Euro-American culture feeds polarization between partners. This article explores relational views of the self and relational ethics developed in philosophy, psychology, feminist theory, neurobiology, and couple and family therapy that counter this individualistic view. A major focus is on the ways in which partners impact each other's identity and well-being for better or worse, and the ethical responsibility this entails. The discussion addresses couple relational ethics within the larger sociocultural context that privileges power and competition. The paper offers applications to couple relationships and couple therapy, with interventions to promote mutual responsibility, fairness, dialogue, and care—helping partners to identify their higher values and interact with greater intentionality. A case example is offered to illustrate therapeutic techniques to enhance relational ethics in couples.

Artikel | 01-01-2023

Vergebung und Entbürdung Eine generationsübergreifende therapeutische Ressource

Zusammenfassung: In diesem Artikel soll ein spezifischer Aspekt von Vergebung (forgiveness) und Entbürdung (exoneration) beleuchtet werden, nämlich ihre Auswirkungen auf die Beziehungen zwischen den Generationen. Dies geschieht aus der Perspektive der Kontextuellen Therapie, einem Ansatz, der von Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy, einem der Pioniere der Familientherapie, begründet wurde. Vergebung und Entbürdung sind eng miteinander verwandte Begriffe. Beide beziehen sich auf den Akt des Loslassens eines Anspruchs gegenüber einem Unrechtstäter. Der Unterschied besteht jedoch darin, dass Vergebung keine Neubewertung des Grades der Schuldhaftigkeit (culpability) des Täters erfordert, während Entbürdung per Definition nur als Ergebnis einer solchen Neubewertung geschehen kann. In der Kontextuellen Therapie wird Entbürdung als wichtiger angesehen als Vergebung. In diesem Artikel werde ich mich auf den Prozess der Entbürdung konzentrieren, die erwachsene Kinder betrifft, die versuchen, Eltern und andere Verwandte, die sich ausbeuterisch oder destruktiv verhalten haben, zu entbürden, wobei ich mich besonders auf die Parentifizierung als Quelle von Ungerechtigkeiten konzentriere. Ich werde nicht auf die Frage der Vergebung oder Entbürdung von Personen eingehen, die nicht zur Familie gehören.

Artikel | 01-01-2023

After all, they are still my parents. About exoneration and forgiveness

Exoneration is a central theme in contextual therapy. To this day, however, there is debate as to whether exoneration and forgiveness are synonymous, or whether they are actually different from each other. In a lecture at the International Conference Contextual Therapy 2023 in Long Beach, California, Dr. Jaap van der Meiden presented the findings from a recent international study on parental forgiveness, and compared them with the theory of exoneration.Er is ook een Nederlandse vertaling onder de titekl: Het zijn tenslotte nog steeds mijn ouders.

Lezing | 01-01-2023

Sociocultural Trauma and Intergenerational Relational Ethics

This chapter uses Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy’s contextual therapy framework to examine how sociocultural trauma impacts basic trust, relational fairness, and personal and family well-being and how to foster new strengths across generational legacies. The authors use a case example to describe how injustice related to totalitarianism, war, and accompanying hardships lead to violations of fairness in care and trust between family members, with future generations bearing the consequences. They illustrate how accessing relational resources can promote healing and relational fairness. Issues such as immigration, couple dynamics, parenting, interpersonal communication, and abuse are addressed with implications for practice.

Boekdeel | 01-01-2023

Clinical Work with Sociocultural Trauma

This chapter draws on conclusions from the experience of Eastern European families and mental health providers in previous chapters to offer an overall framework for clinical practice that assesses the effects of sociocultural trauma and attends to the nuances and complexities of how these may differentially impact people across diverse contexts and situations. The authors emphasize the importance of therapeutic safety and a non-pathologizing, strength-based, third-order approach and provide guidelines for the assessment of sociocultural trauma that may be difficult to recognize. They offer guiding principles for treatment, with a couple therapy example that illustrates intergenerational manifestations of historical trauma on current relationships, and conclude with implications for self-of-the-therapist work.

Boekdeel | 01-01-2023

Rapportage als interventie. Over de bijdrage van meerzijdige partijdigheid aan rapportages in de jeugdhulpverlening

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Rapport | 01-01-2022

Father–son relationships in Israeli military families from the perspective of adult sons

AbstractObjectiveThis research examines the experience of father–son relationships from the perspective of Israeli men whose fathers served as career combat officers.BackgroundMilitary families in general, and children in particular, face unique challenges in dealing with conflicting demands of two “greedy institutions,” military and family.MethodThis study is an interpretative phenomenological analysis of in-depth interviews with 12 Israeli men, aged 25 to 49?years, who were sons of combat officers who served at least 15?years in the Israeli military.ResultsFive themes were identified through the men's responses: (a) father as idealized figure, (b) rationalizing father's distant stance, (c) absence of fear for father's safety, (d) role reversal: taking responsibility for the father–son relationship, (3) shifts in the relationship after father's retirement from the military.ConclusionThe unique life experience of military children as expressed in our findings is presented through the lens of Bozormenyi-Nagy's (1987) contextual theory of the family. Participants exhibited “invisible loyalties”—complex, often contradictory feelings toward the father and his military career. Some strived to establish relationships very different from the one they had with their father but had difficulty doing so. Others voiced a balanced assessment of the benefits and “price” of being a military child and proceeded to develop relationships without being burdened by the military legacy.ImplicationsThis work provides insight for the provision of group activities sponsored by the military for fathers and sons and for those who offer counseling services for young adult military children even after the father's retirement.

Artikel | 01-01-2022